tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post3567851311077543632..comments2023-07-24T02:43:48.362-07:00Comments on All is Fair in Love and War: And there is no one there to dry your tears...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-88079931600387484102011-03-10T11:08:50.640-08:002011-03-10T11:08:50.640-08:00YAY!!! Thank you so much! I will have to get on th...YAY!!! Thank you so much! I will have to get on that! ASAP. <3 you lady!Fortunes Foolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17272596433388410522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-72589680944999418512011-03-08T06:14:00.235-08:002011-03-08T06:14:00.235-08:00I may or may not have given you an award. Check he...I may or may not have given you an award. Check here to find out: http://beanditch.blogspot.com/2011/03/im-winning-and-i-dont-intend-on-losing.html<br /><br />:)beanditchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13062037551906612855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-70129160215111500472011-03-07T12:22:06.807-08:002011-03-07T12:22:06.807-08:00@Beanditch... I totally understood! Don't worr...@Beanditch... I totally understood! Don't worry I didn't take it as bitchy. <br /><br />@Barb.. I shoul dprobably take this off or that part anyway....<br /><br />@Veg- I think you are right...I'm going to keep it until ABSOLUTELY neccessary.<br /><br />@Apfel- I did get to talk to Dad so that was good....I can't talk to him... "Not Allowed", plus I'd probably flip the fuck out..lol <br /><br />@Mrs. Bee- after the incident at my dad's place I was convinced now was the time to turn it in, but I think now that I calmed down I need to keep documenting... <br /><br />@Kitty... I could use all the good wishes I can get! Thanks. :0<br /><br />@Chris... I play that game almost hourly. As much as I wish I could, I will never be able to trust him again, so no I would not take him back now. I know now that I put up with the "stalking" for so many years because somewhere somehow it made me feel like he "cared". The farther and farther I am from the situation now, the more and more objectively i see this, I realize that this is toxic and if I don't take some steps to make things change, they never will. I know him well enough and I know myself well enough to know that it is now or never time. I have to end this once and for all. <br /><br /><br />~Thank you all so much for your kind words and well wishes. It really makes my day! You have no idea. I did get to talk to my dad Friday and I feel reallly good about that. I spent a lot of time with Sceet this weekend which was nice, so I think we are past our little "fight".... pretty good for a busy crazy weekend. <br /><br />Much Love<br />xoxoxoxoxoxFortunes Foolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17272596433388410522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-22298094513672044382011-03-07T11:31:55.143-08:002011-03-07T11:31:55.143-08:00There's been some great advice here already th...There's been some great advice here already that I can't help but agree with. <br /><br />- Be careful, whatever you do. He has power, whether you like that or not, and you need to look out for yourself and your family in whatever ways you can.<br /><br />- Tell no one. That information has power also, and you'd like to keep as much of it for yourself as possible.<br /><br />- Make copies. <br /><br />- Ask yourself what you really want. After my last break-up, it was to a point where I was so used to missing him, that I never realized when I'd stopped missing him. I didn't even recognize the point where I'd registered what his true colors were and what that meant about the feelings I had for him. I was so busy mourning the version of my ex that was that I never noticed the version he'd become. Sit down with yourself and clearly think out what you want and how you actions will effect that. <br /><br />- Obviously we don't know all of the specifics, but my gut tells me that you should hold off for now. Stick it out a little longer. Let this wave of emotions pass. Hold out for a little longer. <br /><br />LorraineLorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04298599423708752471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-51655913087051036312011-03-06T15:07:56.463-08:002011-03-06T15:07:56.463-08:00I play a game with myself, called "What is it...I play a game with myself, called "What is it that you really want?" And can you make it happen? And if so, how?<br /><br />If he left his wife now and came to your door, would you take him in? Or has his recent cowardly behavior made that less likely? <br /><br />Would you like him to keep 'stalking', just because it still is a form of caring? Or do you really, really, want to be left alone?<br /><br />For what it's worth, that might help you decide whether to take that final step or not.Ms. Faustushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03191744120373670081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-22476796770401112402011-03-05T07:24:45.881-08:002011-03-05T07:24:45.881-08:00Wowo that is some scary shit. I know personally ho...Wowo that is some scary shit. I know personally how hard it is to walk away and start fresh. Forgetting is h a r d sometimes.<br /><br />I wish you peace and happiness.<br />xoxxoKittyCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07089609329002975320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-27706425720264449682011-03-04T22:33:03.254-08:002011-03-04T22:33:03.254-08:00Make copies of the tape. If you do turn it in one...Make copies of the tape. If you do turn it in one day you need to have another one on hand in case "something happens" to the original. That's all I can really say about this post because I honestly don't know what the true specifics are of this situation and I don't want anything to happen to you or your family. My gut instinct says "turn it in!" but I'm also an emotional reactor and that may not be the most logical thing to do.. so on that very unhelpful note- just please make a couple copies of the tape for yourself.. just in case.<br /><br />I am in your corner 100%!<br /><br />xoxo,<br />Erin<br />LMrs. Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11720226152281770111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-78775321789605012552011-03-04T19:22:34.889-08:002011-03-04T19:22:34.889-08:00I am so so mad at Capt. Cocksucker right now. But ...I am so so mad at Capt. Cocksucker right now. But I think you should hold on to the tape, coz it is the only piece of evidence you have, and things can still be taken into control. When there is no last resort, then you could use this one final Ace that you have. I seriously think you should take some action, in the sense talk to him, one on one, maybe just a sentence if you notice him around you. Ask him to eff off your life and behave like a responsible adult. If that does not work out, you could go for the extreme. You should still try talking to your Dad about this. I mean generally. Also, please make a copy of it and keep it safe where no one can find it out! You can do this, it's not the limit yet... Just a little more patience love... We're all here for you, sending you all the good vibes.<br /><br />Love<br />xoxoxApfelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03562082315532445960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-6726316556916902892011-03-04T13:59:19.602-08:002011-03-04T13:59:19.602-08:00Dude, that's some shit right there. Seriously...Dude, that's some shit right there. Seriously, for what it's worth, hold on to that recording. Don't play your hand till you ABSOLUTELY are cornered - what's the point in angering someone who's already pissed and crazy even more? While you have that, you have ammunition. Don't threaten him with it - you don't want any blackmail type of accusations, just keep it close. And when the time comes and you really need it? Use it. Then use it to get a restraining order or something.<br /><br />Be safe.VEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704685920354554043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-17752695911938020402011-03-04T13:17:10.802-08:002011-03-04T13:17:10.802-08:00Sorry, I just realized how bitchy the beginning of...Sorry, I just realized how bitchy the beginning of that comment sounded. I just meant that people have a way of already knowing what they're going to do, regardless of what people tell them. And I agree with Barb. Be very careful.beanditchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13062037551906612855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-16750644399788950822011-03-04T12:54:00.998-08:002011-03-04T12:54:00.998-08:00I think it sounds to me like he's dangerous an...I think it sounds to me like he's dangerous and you need to be really careful with this. YOu'll know when the time is right but don't tell anyone you have it. Not even on here. Trust no one with that kind of info. It might save your life.BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432729957196570774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3042382901822603337.post-71636094375531136902011-03-04T12:37:37.364-08:002011-03-04T12:37:37.364-08:00I can't tell you what to do. Quite frankly, I&...I can't tell you what to do. Quite frankly, I'm sure you wouldn't put too much stock into it, anyway. But you have to do what you know in your heart of hearts should be done. If you turn it in, are you going to regret it hours/days/years down the road? Do what you have to do that is going to ease your mind. <br /><br />I am such a "fixer," even in circumstances that don't involve me. I always feel like I need to rectify every single situation. And I'm pretty positive lately God's been trying to teach me to just rely on Him instead of trying to take matters into my own hands. <br /><br />Anyway, whatever you decide to do, I'm behind you. Praying things take a turn for the better VERY soon. Lots of love. ♥♥♥beanditchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13062037551906612855noreply@blogger.com